why is it so important for a muslimah to choose a righteous husband?

Assalamualaikum wbt :)

i am not 'racist' but because i am girl/muslimah, most of my post akan membela perempuan miahaha (apa kena gelak tak sopan ni)

Sooo.....

Why is it so important for a Muslimah to choose a righteous husband who doesn’t only practice his Deen but also lowers his gaze from Haram?! 

yes. it is very very VERY important!

because the one who doesn’t lower his gaze from what Allah forbade, it will be so normal for him to look to non Hijabi girls in the street, it will be so natural for him to enjoy watching actresses in movies 

He will be filled with Haram glances until the beauty of his wife won’t satisfy him anymore, until his desire towards her decreases with time because inside of him, he will always compare her beauty with the fake one of actresses or top models who appear on tv
This is why Prophet Mohammad (sallAllahu alaihi wa sallam) said:“The furtive (lustful) glance is one of the poisoned arrows of Shaytan. Whoever forsakes it for the fear of Allah, will receive from Him (Great and Gracious is He) a faith, the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.” (al-Haakim.)

But the one who lowers his gaze from what Allah forbade, won’t see any other woman except his wife, she will always be enough for him. For lowering his gaze, Allah will reward him with the sweet pleasure of Halal with his wife ♥

until now i still can't understand how can a man can love or like more than one women ????

hijrah hati

assalamualaikum wbt :)

semalam ni haa lepas discussion pi lah ceramah ustaz syaari dekat Kosass tu. nasib baik ustaz datang lambat, boleh la dengar dari mula sampai habis walaupun kejap jer kan

ok back to the topic. sempena minggu upgrate iman yang dianjurkan oleh Kosass upm ni, semalam pembukaan dan ceramah dari ustaz syaari. tajuk best :) tapi bukan mengenai HATI jer oke

as usual saya memang suka cara pembawakan ustaz berceramah or maybe dia orang kelate? haha. bukan assobiyah ye.

overall, nak berubah, ada 3 benda iaitu MPP

1. Mindset : yang ni penting. macam niat la. semua kita buat bergantung pada niat kan. baik buruk sesuatu bergantung pada niat. so, everytime nak buat benda, niat benda baik dan be positif :)
jangan salahkan orang. cuba cari salah diri sendiri dan jangan give up sebaliknya perbaiki diri sendiri untuk terus berdiri
*remind to myself*

2. Paksa : haaa. yang best. PAKSA PAKSA dan PAKSA. diri kita kan memang malas sikit. bukan setakat malas. selalu lupa pulak tu. nak buat benda baik memang susah, sebab kena paksa diri. biar start sikit2 asalkan istiqamah. lama2 benda ni jadi habit. bila dah jadi habit, kita tinggalkan pun jadi serba salah. seseorang yang selalu menjaga solatnya di awal waktu, bilamana terpaksa keadaan yang menyebabkan dia solat lambat, maka diri dia or badan dia sendiri akan bangun pergi mengerjakan solat tersebut.
so macam ustaz, dia tak boleh tidur selagi tak baca buku walaupun 10 minit.

if nak berubah, mula dengan sikit2 tapi istiqamah. itu lebih baik dari buat banyak sekali gus tapi hampeh kan.
mula dengan al-mulk, al-waqiah, mathurat, solat sunat dhuha, solat sunat rawatib dan lain2 everyday :)

3. Pengulangan

istiqamah!

nampaknya saya pun kena hijrah HATI ni.eh? :P

biar masa menentukan semuanya and we are still friend :)